There are six people sharing a dorm room in my home university. Three of us living left hand side are roommates when we are freshman. We have same living styles such as being quite and clean. Another three persons living in right hand side are close friends who like to do their homework which is making architecture models in the midnight.
Every time when they work on their model in the midnight, three of us can't fall sleep until they finished it. Besides, sometimes they made loudly noises when they got up early. In addition to their living styles which we can't deal with, they brought friend home for overstay twice a month. Three of us who are always tolerated these things but not communicate with them at all. Finally, the conflict burst out during final exam week. Both sides of us don't talk anymore. They started getting up really early and making noise for purpose. One of our friend started slammed the door when she went out. And me, at the end, got up when the noise raised and went out studying for avoiding these nervous moments.
I would say the main problem could be bad communication. Since everyone living in this room have their right to use it. No matter deciding being quite or doing projects lately. Final exam week may also contribute this outburst. Since everyone is under their pressure, and have no more tolerance for irritation. What we should improve may be we should tell them our sleep styles and all of us can decide how to get the balance especially in final exam week.
I think at the first time when they move into this room, we make our own group already. As a result, they may feel that we are not friendly people at all. Also, even when we disturbed by lately sleeping, we didn't tell them. They may not know what always we feel unhappy with them. They may think we had the feelings of hostility with them.
If we accumulate this kind of bad emotion for a long time, how should we have wise to say it out and don't hurt others feeling at the same time?
it is sad that things turned so sour. It is always better to have 1 more friend than to have another enemy. Other than communication skills, we are dealing with a certain degree of EQ as well. Apparently the 3 "evil" people did not have that EQ.
回覆刪除I think it is important to sit down and set some house rules at the very beginning. Also you should strive to build a closer relationship with your next roommate. When your relationship is closer, it is easier to let her know if she was disturbing your sleep. Perhaps it might reach the stage of thinking and caring for each other.
I agree with Charles that it's such a pity things soured to such a point of no return. There should have some agreement on house rules from the start that might have helped to control the whole issue. YOu might still want to think about 'repairing' the situation through communication. It might be worth the time.
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